10 Essential Tips for Planning Your Wedding Like a Pro!

As you embark on the exciting journey of wedding planning, staying organized can make all the difference. But between choosing the color scheme, selecting which loved ones to include in each photo, and deciding on the venue, planning the celebration of your dreams can quickly feel like an endless loop of “yeses” and “nos.”

To help you manage everything smoothly, Paloma Wood, our founder, shares her 10 best tips to ensure you feel comfortable and ready for the big day!

SET YOUR PRIORITIES

Before diving into the decision-making process, you and your partner should take some time to agree on the wedding elements that matter most to each of you—beyond just what’s “non-negotiable” advises Paloma. “It’s essential to take this time to list what matters most to you, as it will provide a solid starting point for your planning journey.” Do you envision a seated meal or a standing reception, a live band, or getting married in a grand chateau? These choices will become your must-haves and your guiding thread!

Another crucial point is that this guiding thread will help you understand where you’re willing to make compromises and where you draw the line, allowing you to take the necessary time to make decisions on the elements that are truly important to you.

DEFINE (AND STICK TO) YOUR BUDGET

Whether your budget is $5,000, $25,000, or $250,000, it’s crucial to create a detailed budget plan! This will help outline each expense category and highlight your priorities. For our clients, developing the budget plan is a key step that enables us to make quick decisions and identify areas where we can make concessions (or even cut expenses if necessary). Additionally, regardless of your budget, always set aside a small margin for unexpected expenses.

Once the essential vendors are booked—venue, catering, drinks, and photographer—that’s when many couples tend to feel stuck. “The best advice I can give you is to invest your money in what truly brings you joy. If decoration is less important to you than entertainment for your guests, then follow your instincts!”

ORGANIZE YOUR PLANNING

After considering these two points, it’s time to dive into creating your planning schedule. Even though the big day may seem far off, keep in mind that the most sought-after vendors are often booked well in advance. For instance, you should expect to reserve a venue about 12 to 18 months ahead of time, and around 10 to 12 months for a photographer or a wedding planner for complete organization. This is an essential point to consider if you’re getting married during peak season, which typically includes weekends from May to September.

“For us, organizing a wedding over 12 to 18 months is the ideal timeframe to make decisions without stress, allowing us to focus on other aspects with the soon-to-be-weds beyond pure logistics” says Paloma. “That said, wedding planning can certainly be done within a shorter timeframe, but it requires making quick decisions, and we’re here for that!” If possible, treat yourself to the luxury of taking your time with your planning.

LIMIT YOUR RESEARCH (SO IMPORTANT)

When you’re deep into planning your wedding, and with everything you see on Instagram, TikTok, and Pinterest, over-researching can become obsessive and is an easy way to stall your decision-making process. “If you look at too many options for each category, you’ll get lost and won’t know what to choose. Let go a little and allow yourself to be guided by your wedding planner or by family and friends if you’re tackling the planning on your own. They have recommendations and valuable advice to share.”

The best advice we can give you is to stick to the rule of six: “Limit yourself to six vendors per category to avoid getting overwhelmed and wasting your time.” says Paloma. “When working with our soon-to-be-weds, we try to adhere to this rule as much as possible, except in specific cases. Additionally, an initial selection is made by our team, taking into account the vendors we work with, your budget, and their availability.”

DELEGATE DECISIONS AND TASKS

Neither of you should feel like the entire burden of wedding decision-making and planning falls on your shoulders. The best way to ensure both partners feel heard and included is to delegate tasks based on each person’s priorities, preferences, and skill set. “One of our couples set up a system that worked really well: they scheduled one evening every week or two to work together on the important aspects of the planning,” says Paloma. “It was their time off together, perfect for reconnecting on a subject that mattered to them, and it worked out great.” This approach allows everyone to make progress and share their vision and desires. Even if one person struggles to make a choice at some point, they can find a few good options for both partners to decide on together. “Let’s not forget that a wedding is primarily a partnership!”

You’re also free to delegate certain decisions that neither of you feels strongly about to your wedding planner or loved ones. All you need to do is participate in certain parts of the process—like interviewing the band, attending the catering tasting, and finding the dream dress—and leave the rest to someone else.

CHOOSING YOUR VENUE

We’ve written an entire article about it, but here’s an important point to consider. The choice of your venue will be decisive, and everything else in your planning and the next steps with vendors will stem from this. Indeed, many venues are booked well in advance, so it’s crucial to address this quickly! Why? “Because the venue will simply determine your wedding date!” emphasizes Paloma. “It will then allow you to book other vendors, prepare your invitations and RSVPs for your guests, and also give you a deadline!”

The venue also influences certain elements: “More and more reception halls have specific requirements regarding vendors, sound systems, and capacity,” says Paloma. “All these factors must be considered for a smooth and successful wedding.”

MAKE COMPROMISES

Because yes, as we’ve seen, a wedding is a partnership, and it can turns out that in reality, you can’t have it all! First, there’s the budget to consider—between what you want, what you see on social media from your favorite influencers, and your financial limits. “Many of our couples come in with loads of screenshots of what they want, which is great for creating a guideline, an artistic vision, and understanding their preferences and tastes,” says Paloma. “But it’s important to compile these desires with your budget, the actual costs of each vendor, and your priorities!” Being inflexible on every point and lacking adaptability is unproductive, and you’ll likely be disappointed in the end.

Another important point is to consider what your partner truly wants. For example, if he’s not a fan of wearing a tailcoat or doing the Dirty Dancing lift, listen to him! And if your parents have a small request that is very dear to them—after all, it’s not every day that you marry off your children—take the time to listen (within certain limits, of course!).

CHOOSE YOUR VENDORS CAREFULLY

Florist, caterer, photographer, or DJ—you must choose your vendors based on their work and talent. The first little tip we can give you is: it’s all about the feeling! “In the weddings I’ve organized, I can immediately see the difference between a vendor with whom there’s a good rapport and one where it’s not. This is directly felt on the big day and impacts the quality of service,” confides Paloma.“I can’t emphasize enough that a good team of vendors is almost a guarantee of a wedding without hiccups or drama on the organizational side.”

The second point is to trust them and avoid asking for things that are outside their expertise. For example, don’t ask a photographer for fine art photos if that’s not their style, or request a florist to create ultra-colorful arrangements if their specialty leans more toward soft and rustic compositions. If your vendors aren’t comfortable with the requested work, they won’t be able to deliver what you expect, and everyone will end up disappointed. It’s best to avoid that!

REMEMBER WHAT’S IMPORTANT

So yes, a wedding is about organization—choosing the wine, the rings, the music for the first dance, and the colors for the napkins… But it’s so much more than that. As La Mariée aux Pieds Nus beautifully puts it: “A wedding, your wedding, is about you, your loved ones, your family… but most importantly, it’s about you.” A wedding isn’t just a long weekend in a beautiful location in Provence, for example. “It’s a life milestone that you cross together, a commitment you make with and for each other,” says Paloma.

“The key is to truly have a day that reflects who you are, a unique moment that binds you, regardless of your budget and the color of the napkins!” We can only advise you to remember the essence: your union. With all these decisions, and where the bride can often turn into a bridezilla, a little reminder never hurts!

HIRE A WEDDING PLANNER

Promise, we’ll stay objective! Working with a wedding planner is a real game changer (and we don’t say that because we’re planners!). It helps couples define their vision, manage their budget, and select vendors that match their needs. “Our job isn’t just to guide you through the planning process, but to provide you with the best vendors based on your desires, budget, and overall theme, taking away a stressful burden,” says Paloma. “We’re here to support you throughout the process, relieving you as much as possible so you can fully enjoy this exciting time.”

Hiring a wedding planner allows you to enjoy the preparations without stress, saving time, and most importantly, savoring your big day. “And that’s the most important thing to me!” Paloma emphasizes: the planner will handle the unexpected, coordinate the vendors, welcome your guests, and be present for you… Check out the 12 Good Reasons to Hire a Wedding Planner and the great article from Brides on The Ultimate Guide to Hiring the Right Wedding Planner.

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